Goal are needed and they give us direction, however, what happens when we are caught by setting and achieving goals? When we feel that ache and desire that arises pondering the obtainment of our muse. Often we become consumed when the blinders are placed on and we are off to the races. I can’t wait! If only! It is going to be so much better when! We begin to create a fantasy around the obtainment of our goal. Maybe more money, a new job, a car or even completion of our koans. I know for myself ordination was that, a unicorn, and the projected key to my discontentment. We fantasize and begin to fast forward through life, ignoring what we do have. Finally we get that new car, lump sum or koan completion. We experience great joy and wonder, for a short time. This is followed by that dreaded question….NOW WHAT? We feel let down, deflated and even panicked. In material sales they call it buyers remorse. WHAT NEXT? Most of the time we fall back on a goal or obtaining, and the process begins all over again. We are caught in a repetitive loop.. How much of of our lives are wasted over grasping? Next time you feel that ache or desire to obtain, remember that question that arises when the magic fades away, NOW WHAT? The strength to turn yourself around is found within the question.
